Ever heard that song “Something inside of me is telling me you’re saying Good-Bye” by Boney James. That is a very true feeling that sometimes happens in relationships. However, we might dismiss this feeling as just a slight emotion of insecurity. Sadly to says your gut may be advising you of the impending breakup that is on the way. Here are some signs to clue you in on when your mate may be looking to exit, stage right.
Signal # 1 – Lessen Communication: You and your mate used to talk hours on end, now you can barely get a return phone call. Often times, when your mate is looking to go towards greener pastures, phone call frequency lessens.
Signal # 2 – Lack of Interest/Concern: Your mate used to be there anytime you had a bad day, argument or a bad cold, now you have to get your chicken soup on your own. When love fades, unfortunately so does concern and care for some people. If your mate shows no interest in how you feel and how they can make things better, Single-town may be your next place of residence.
Signal # 3 – No Date, No Mate: You and your mate used to have frequent date nights and see each other every other day if not everyday, now your friends are seeing more and more of you. Often times, when a person is on the verge of breaking up, instead of going completely cold turkey, they began the break up cycle by weaning off of seeing there mate as frequently. For the person breaking up, it makes the transition to single life or their next mate easier. For the person being broken up with it could be torture.
Even though your song of choice on your next girl’s night out may be Beyonce’s “Single Ladies”, remember that even after a break up there is always some good to be found. First, take some time to mourn your loss, and then celebrate your new beginning. Do this by taking this time to evaluate the signals and reasons why and how your breakup occurred. Finally, find you, love you and remember if not today, love will definitely be on the way!! I would love to hear your thoughts and comments because, hey, it’s just MY perspective.
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